https://martiabernathey.com/categories/relationships-realizations/ en Fri, 04 Dec 2009 18:12:04 +0100 https://martiabernathey.com/2009/12/04/the-pressure-to.html Fri, 04 Dec 2009 18:12:04 +0100 http://marti-abernathey.micro.blog/2009/12/04/the-pressure-to.html <!-- wp:paragraph --> <p>For many years I thought I needed someone else to make me whole. Someone to "complete me." I've tried many ways to find that completeness, but sometimes the cliché is the truth. The easy truth is sometimes the hardest to actualize/realize/deal with.</p> <!-- /wp:paragraph --> <!-- wp:paragraph --> <p>Ultimately I realized that I never needed anything outside my own acceptance, my own love, and my own respect. Do I want those things from other people? Yes. Do I need them to be complete? Hardly.</p> <!-- /wp:paragraph --> <!-- wp:paragraph --> <p>But saying that doesn't mean I want to be alone. It means I can be, and that's ok. I had a recent bout of loneliness that came over me quickly and pressed down on me like an imploding house. But even in that, the above realization was always with me. I'm at a point in my life where my needs and wants are clearly defined. It helps to know the difference, especially when I get lonely. Filling that void in my life is a want, not a need. That is such a relief/weight lifted, I can't even explain it enough for one to understand the gravity it implies.</p> <!-- /wp:paragraph -->